10/6/2019 S.H. Minutes

1 Friend and one regular attender were present.  We had Zoom turned on as trial.  It closed itself after 40 minutes of silence.  We will need to find a way to work around this before invite folks at a distance to connect with us for worship.

3rd Query answer:
Our home is usually a place of peace and contentment.  We are not often outwardly joyful.  Our lives have become humdrum in many ways.
We take an interest in civic affairs when we vote, in conversations, and in occasional letters to the editor.  We donate funds and time individually to good causes such as Boy Scouts and our religious communities.  Today, one of us represented Seekers’ Haven in a charity 5K walk to support a recovery home for women with alcoholism or drug addiction.  We discussed options for more hospitality in our home.
Our children are all adults living at a distance.  We continue to be a Christian example when they visit, but it seems to have little effect.
We have witnessed to our children to read and appreciate the Bible as best we could, but they have become closed-eared.

Some of our regular attenders are single.  This and some other queries are not pertinent to them, leaving them our of the discussion.  A series of queries developed by single persons for their condition are on our website at https://yourfriendinchrist.net/life-in-christ/.

Conrad Lindes


2/3/2019 Seekers’ Haven Minutes

1 Friend and 2 regular attenders were present.  We also had query answers emailed to us from 2 distant Friends. 

7th Query answer: We generally limit our purchases and possessions to those things that are practical for simple comfort in daily life in our culture.

We avoid speaking dishonestly.   We seek to answer questions such as, “How are you?” briefly but honestly – “Well,” or “Blessed,” or “I choose to have a good day.”  These answers are the truth, but no always the detailed truth.   Some of us sincerity in speech to call days of the week and months of the years by their numbers rather than by pagan names.    Some use of second person singular “thee and thou.”   We now find ourselves facing the common but dishonest use of third person plural “they” rather than “he” or “she” for third person singular, which seems to be from grammatical laziness and the “politically correct” avoidance of gender pronouns that might offend someone.

Our apparel is generally simple and modest for our culture.  Modesty is not only a consideration of the impression we may give of ourselves, but the temptation to forbidden thoughts our appearance might engender in others, causing them to “stumble.”   Modern fashions make this a particular challenge for women.

Some of us are prone over commit ourselves to “good” things, depriving ourselves of time to rest in the Lord.  Current affairs and social media can divert time and focus from wholesome activity. We do generally have special times of the day set aside for worship, prayer, and spiritual reading.

We are just in or dealings and careful to fulfill our promises.

We try to make our Christian faith a part of our daily lives by practicing the golden rule, even if it is a one-way street, and by living the affirmative of the other parts of this query.  We feel blessed and try to be good stewards of God’s gifts.  We try to live every day of our lives for Christ our Saviour.



1/6/2019 Seekers’ Haven Minutes

6th Query answer:  It is Jesus, Christ, who is the life and power that takes away the occasion of all wars – the envy, greed, vengeance, and other evils in our hearts.  We endeavor always to live in Christ.  He reveals God to us as a loving father who gives us rules to protect us.  We seek to be loving children in following those rules.  None of us participates directly in any military effort, but we recognize that some of our taxes pay for it.  We invite others to join us in following the Lord.

As we consider the command “do not kill” along with the concern for equal opportunities for all people, we pray that the elderly, infirm, and unborn will have equal opportunities for life.

12/2/2018 Seekers’ Haven Minutes


5th query answer:  As we are able individually, we give to charities and help disadvantaged people directly.  The wife of one of us belongs to a healthcare sharing ministry in which members help one another to pay their medical bills.   This year, Seekers’ Haven as a group will be helping residents in a skilled nursing facility to “buy” small Christmas presents for loved ones.   We find opportunities for counseling one another privately in our walks with Christ, but we are not aware, as a group, of any member’s actions which give us cause for concern.

11/4/2018 Seekers’ Haven Minutes

One Friend and three regular attenders were present. A query response was by email from another Friend.

4th Query: Some of us exercise on a daily basis, at home, at a gym, and/or walking outdoors. Others do not exercise as regularly as they feel they should. One Friend also does weekly English Country dancing. Some maintain intellectual health is maintained by reading and/or working puzzles. Emotional health is maintained through social activities with like-minded people and through family relationships.

All feel that they are temperate except for the tendency to be over-committed to good causes.

Friends are clear of the use and handling of tobacco and alcohol. Some attenders use alcohol in moderation. All are clear of improper use of drugs.

10/7/2018 Seekers’ Haven Minutes

One Friend and two regular attenders were present.  We also received a query answer from a Friend who lives in Canada.
3rd Query answer:
Our homes are generally places of peace, joy, and contentment, although it takes continual effort to keep them in a welcoming condition so that those feelings can be shared.  This query can be understood inwardly, in that it is helpful to reflect that a heart which is a place of peace, joy and contentment will tend to express itself in a house which shows these attributes.
Our homes can be influences themselves, in how they are maintained and how we live in them.  They are also the bases from which we go out into the world to carry that influence with us.
All the children of all of us who are parents are adults.   We demonstrate and share our Christian faith and experience as we are able.  When our children were young, we did encourage them to trust and follow the Lord and to read and appreciate the Bible.

9/2/2018 Seekers’ Haven Minutes

Seekers’ Haven minutes 9/2/2018

One Friend and three regular attenders were present. Also, an answer for the second query from an affiliate member of Salem meeting was read.

Second query answer:
We do work to forgive and to empathize with those who have harmed us. Although this is more difficult when it appears the other party has no remorse, we know that failure to forgive only harms ourselves and our relationship with God.
We are careful not to detract from the reputation of others through bearing tales or gratuitous criticism, while speaking truthfully.
To love, in this sense, means to be thoughtful, helpful, kind, and considerate of others, to start. To go beyond this to a true concern in ones heart for the other may require the help of Christ and the forgiving spirit.
We are not aware of any differences among us, praying that, if such should arise, we would acknowledge them and humbly submit to Christ’s resolution of them.

We plan to meet again for worship at 10:30 a.m. on 9/16/2018. If the weather is good, this will be at Nike Park.

Conrad Lindes